==A SOULFUL RELATIONSHIP==
this is a good read.. i like it a lot. i found it in a friendster post .. remember the things i was yakking the other day?.. well this explains it well!!! read on..
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye." Before you get involvedand make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low-self esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don'tfool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important. Once you decide to commit to someone,over time their flaws, vulnerability's, petpeeves, and differences will become more obvious.
If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together. Neither one of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to therelationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, pastpain. You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life," you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.
Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.
Seeking status, sex, wealth and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.
What keeps a relationship strong? Communication, Intimacy, Trust, A sense of humor, Sharing household tasks, Some getaway time without business or children.
Daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug,a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice messageon their voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests.
Growth is important. Grow together, not awayfrom each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of. Don't try to control one another.
Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless. Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember, for Richer or for Poorer.
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse,neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye." Before you get involvedand make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low-self esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don'tfool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important. Once you decide to commit to someone,over time their flaws, vulnerability's, petpeeves, and differences will become more obvious.
If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together. Neither one of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to therelationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, pastpain. You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life," you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.
Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.
Seeking status, sex, wealth and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.
What keeps a relationship strong? Communication, Intimacy, Trust, A sense of humor, Sharing household tasks, Some getaway time without business or children.
Daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug,a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice messageon their voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests.
Growth is important. Grow together, not awayfrom each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of. Don't try to control one another.
Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless. Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember, for Richer or for Poorer.
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse,neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.
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